When you first met, you and your partner couldn’t keep your hands off of each other. Then you settled down and got married; slowly the amount of intercourse that you and your spouse are having has dwindled down to nothing. When you do have sex one or both of your are going through the motions. You hate to admit it, but the two of you have wandered down the sexless marriage path. This path really does bite the big one, but before you can find a solution, you need to figure out what the problem is. The causes of your sexless marriage could be one of many things, but you may want to start with looking at one of these three possibilities: stress, an affair, or a boring routine.1. Stress – If stress is the cause of lack of sex in your marriage, then you may want to look at where the stress is coming from. Is it coming from work? Maybe a different job is in order. Is it coming from your financial situation? Then sit down with your spouse and get a plan together to make things on the money front better. Is it being caused by your lack of sex? Discuss with your spouse why you are not having sex, this could be as easy as making time to have fun in the sack. Just taking time to discuss the problem could afford you a solution.2. An Affair – If you or your spouse is having an affair, it could be real ugly. The fling in your lives is the latest and greatest thing; it will be extremely difficult to compete with that. Even if the affair is ended, how can you trust your partner again to open yourself up and start having intercourse. In this case, look back and see what may have caused the affair in the first place. Was it lack of sex? Then look to see what caused that. Go through this process with your spouse to get the most bang for your buck.3. Lack of variety – In the bedroom you and your spouse go through the same motions every time you do the dirty. If this is what your life in the bedroom has become, then chances are your life outside of the bedroom is the same. Try thinking of ways that you can spend some time with your husband or wife doing things you have never done before. It doesn’t have to be expensive, just something different. If you can surprise them without any suspicion the change-up may be even better. Just making some unexpected changes in your daily routine could bring some spark back to your sex life.
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