Marriage is a blessing. However, it is a blessing that comes with a price called sacrifice. Sacrifice is the very essence of marital bond, and this is also achieved by means of compromise. Note that the key words rhymes: Price, sacrifice and compromise. These are the elements for marital bliss. Marital bliss can only be achieved if one is selfless enough to uphold its values.Marriage in its pure form should not be corrupted by anything awful–like a fight blown out of proportion. It should be about love, kindness and support for one another. There is nothing as mortifying like the sight of seeing married couples openly assaulting themselves with unpleasant words all in the name of anger and lack of patience. It is not only shameful for the individuals directly involved, but also for any person that witnesses such a horror. It can also be a psychological trauma for the children of the married couples.The common causes of dispute between married couples can be listed to an infinite degree, from the germane to the very trivial. However some major causes of contention includes: infidelity, money, poor communication, sex, chores, addictions, habits, past history, occupation, insecurity and even childbearing. However statistics shows that infidelity and finance stands most prominent.Nevertheless, no matter how prominent it is, it can always be argued over in a gentle way that will not be cataclysmic to the marriage in whole.After a thorough insight into practical cases in my own life and that of other married couples. I came up with some tips that can never be overlooked if one wants to fight fairly with his/her spouse:Poor communication between married couples aid to fester problems. Problems that in their early stages could have been quenched using simple dialogue. However, due to lack of communication, it is allowed to grow to the point where one or both parties cannot take it any longer. It is important that married couples should confront themselves about issues that bother them. This should however be done carefully. They should not immediately point accusing fingers at one another and laying blames. They are half of the other, so they should be both responsible to in finding a solution to the problem.By fighting fairly with your spouse is also by fighting privately with your spouse. The issues between married couples should be discussed where there are no prying eyes and ears. Where no external factors serve as catalyst to the intending feud. Issues are well resolved this way. Couples should also not bring in friends and other family members in a case of dispute between them. It only introduces the element of betrayal and vote of no confidence in the other.Patience can never be overemphasized in a case of dispute between married couples. They should both exercise patience when dealing with issues between them. In the case of anger, a spouse should allow himself/herself to calm down before approaching the other to discuss it. This should be done in a bid to avoid shouting at one another and making it a raucous affair. Married couples can also endeavor to schedule time to discuss their problems for later if they are both not in the mood to discuss it at that present time. Because it takes two willing mind to resolve a marital issue.By fighting fairly in a marriage is by letting go of your ego and apologizing. Acknowledge that you are wrong and ask for forgiveness from your spouse. It is simply the honorable and romantic thing to do.Even if a blown-out-of-proportion fights threatens. Couples should endeavor to control themselves in other to avoid it. Do not use elements like criticism, sarcasm, character assassination, accusation, and direct insult. Avoid also generalizing and recalling past history. This can only detonate the explosion of a fight.In other to prevent financial dispute, couples should have different bank and credit accounts. However they should both agree contribute to the bills being paid, with only one person in charge of making the direct payments. This allows for ease of the financial running of the family, which will thwart all potential financial disputes that may rise between them.Finally, if it is a problem that persists and seems irresolvable, couples should seek professional advice from a marriage counselor. It is not wise to think it is best to get out of the marriage. I can bet that it is a lot better than the loneliness that comes afterward. And how does one know that one will not face such a seemingly irresolvable problem in another marriage?
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